Happy New Year! Now Lose the Guilt…


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Hahaha. Sometimes I extra love my new hair.

So first let me say, I HATE NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS. I think people make them too quickly, without much thought, and then break them just as fast. The idea that everyone needs to make one and then spend tons of money and time accomplishing it is commercial and annoying.

However, if there is something you’ve been trying to improve in your life, the first of the year is a great time to take the first of many baby steps. I know the weight loss thing is pretty popular but I think that goal is too broad. Focus on something small, work it in slowly, and do whatever it takes to make it a regular part of your life. Reading this blog is a good start!

My New Years Baby Step (that’s what I’ll be calling from now on) is: LOSE THE GUILT. People in my family happen to be great at guilt trips. That’s means that not only do I get them frequently, but I give them to myself, AND other people. Guilt is a huge part of what used to make me tick but it also made me constantly anxious. So I’m done with it. If someone wants something from me, they can ask. If I need a favor from someone else, I will ask them instead of being passive aggressive and guilt tripping.

I feel guilty when I eat to much of the wrong food, when I don’t exercise five days a week, when I forget to wish my friend a Happy Birthday, whenever! It’s invading my brain and I’m done with it.

This is going to be a tough one. Changing the way I think is probably the hardest thing I could baby step to but what’s life without a challenge? And this one will be worth it I think.

What will you step towards this month?

ps. Sorry about the lack of posts last week. I decided that my vacation was going to be as little effort as possible. And, for the most part, it was! So thanks for understanding. From now on, when I go on vacation, so does this blog.

9 thoughts on “Happy New Year! Now Lose the Guilt…

  1. Ruth Rainwater

    Happy New Year! And I so love your hair. Guilt is never a good thing; it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy or a downward spiral, so good for you for wanting to work on it.

    I don’t make resolutions; I set intentions for the year. And never more than I think I can handle. So this year, I will continue the journey towards retirement by looking at more ways to cut expenses and more ways to earn extra funds. And I will finish and edit both of my NaNo novels before it’s time for another NaNo adventure.

    1. ahappylass Post author

      I totally agree! I was trying to come up with a word and all I could think of was baby steps but “intentions” is the perfect way of putting it. I love your intentions and I have no doubt you’ll see them through. Also, thanks for all the comments this year! You were my top commenter in my annual report 🙂

  2. Cori

    I completely agree with you on the New Years resolution thing. When do you ever here of anyone talking about a resolution they made 6 months after the turn of the new year. Never happens. My goal for this year is to just keep on living happily and heathy as I’ve always try to do. Happy New Years ash!

  3. Anonymous

    As I lay here with my pulled back, I am frustrated that I could not start on my New Year’s resolutions. I was getting really cranky. However, I realized that is life. It throws you a curve ball. So, I start the new year with a new resolution: to stay positive and focus on things I have control over. Love the blog Ashley.

    1. ahappylass Post author

      I think this is Jeannie. Thanks for commenting! Let me know if you need the name of a chiro or massage therapist! I know a couple in SD. I hope you feel better soon. New year, new intentions.

  4. Anonymous

    Be kinder to everyone—specialy the pups when they eat my good shoes, loveeeee your blog my darling girl, anonymous.


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