Category Archives: Inspiration

Happy Friday: Self Love Project

How much do you love yourself? Why do you love yourself? How often do you remember these reasons? I spout a lot about how important it is to appreciate the amazing people in your life, but what about you? I don’t think anyone can be happy unless they truly have confidence in all their quirks and weirdness.

Back in October I read a great post by one of my favorite blogs: Once A Month For Ladies. They asked their readers to send a picture showing one reason they love themselves. I got all giggly when I watched it.

So here it goes… I love myself because I am completely neurotic about keeping our apartment clean. And just because I really do love myself, here’s another one. I love myself because I really dislike sharing my food.

Don’t worry, I won’t ask you to send me photos but how about this…

Comment on this post: One (or two) reasons you love yourself. And men, I’d love to hear from you too! 🙂

 

No Workout Wednesday: Holiday Blues Anyone?

Our flight got canceled yesterday. I was so excited that the next flight was the next morning so I could spend a bit more time with my family. Then Mike realized he had an early morning meeting so we had to take a MUCH longer route and got in around 1am. I’m tired. Really tired. The house is clean (thank goodness for my foresight there), but I have to unpack, grocery shop, take down Christmas decorations, and pay the bills that have accumulated in the last 10 days. I went from blissful exhaustion being with my family to desperate exhaustion being here, on my own, with PILES of work.

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But this happens every time I go on vacation. Does it happen to you? My parents have the perfect name for it: Holiday Blues. Mike and I even planned for our holiday blues and thought we would have a nice, healthy, breakfast together before he left for work. NOT. We both scrambled out of bed and out the door with barely enough time to say hello to each other.

So how do you do it? How do you combat the Holiday Blues? I think I’m going to ease my way back into life. Do only the imperative things today: get a great night’s sleep, start the healthy eating, get adjusted (by my boss/chiropractor), and unpack. Tomorrow I will restart working out and paying bills. Oh goodness doesn’t that sound fun?

But at the end of it all, when I sit down to think about it, holy bajolies I’m such a lucky chick. I just got 10 days with my family and friends. And there were people who weren’t there that I missed terribly! How wonderful it is to have so many loved ones that they can’t possibly all gather in one place at one time? Anyway, as exhausted as I am, I’m only really excited at the possibilities for this year. I hope it’s just as good as the last one 🙂

 

Happy New Year! Now Lose the Guilt…

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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Hahaha. Sometimes I extra love my new hair.

So first let me say, I HATE NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS. I think people make them too quickly, without much thought, and then break them just as fast. The idea that everyone needs to make one and then spend tons of money and time accomplishing it is commercial and annoying.

However, if there is something you’ve been trying to improve in your life, the first of the year is a great time to take the first of many baby steps. I know the weight loss thing is pretty popular but I think that goal is too broad. Focus on something small, work it in slowly, and do whatever it takes to make it a regular part of your life. Reading this blog is a good start!

My New Years Baby Step (that’s what I’ll be calling from now on) is: LOSE THE GUILT. People in my family happen to be great at guilt trips. That’s means that not only do I get them frequently, but I give them to myself, AND other people. Guilt is a huge part of what used to make me tick but it also made me constantly anxious. So I’m done with it. If someone wants something from me, they can ask. If I need a favor from someone else, I will ask them instead of being passive aggressive and guilt tripping.

I feel guilty when I eat to much of the wrong food, when I don’t exercise five days a week, when I forget to wish my friend a Happy Birthday, whenever! It’s invading my brain and I’m done with it.

This is going to be a tough one. Changing the way I think is probably the hardest thing I could baby step to but what’s life without a challenge? And this one will be worth it I think.

What will you step towards this month?

ps. Sorry about the lack of posts last week. I decided that my vacation was going to be as little effort as possible. And, for the most part, it was! So thanks for understanding. From now on, when I go on vacation, so does this blog.

Very Last Monday(?): Bucket List

Well as everyone knows (unless you’ve been living in a hole for the last 10 years) the Mayan calendar ends on Friday. Obviously this means that the entire universe will coming to a grinding halt and … what is supposed to happen? Are we all gonna blow to smithereens? Will we just freeze over and die slowly? Hmmm. Not something I like to really think about but I do find it really fun to think about just how ridiculous this end of the world thing is.

Anyway! In light of the projection of the world ending, and also because of New Year’s coming up, let’s share some of our bucket lists. Only the fun stuff though. I don’t think we need any more negative than we’re already getting this week.

My Bucket List (only the fun stuff):

1. smash a guitar – Something about the big clang and splintering of wood sounds so satisfying to me.

2. mud wrestle – I love an excuse to get muddy. The wrestling part is just my competitive side coming out because I WOULD win.

3. hang out of Cirque du Soleil performers for a day – I’ve seen 7 Cirque shows to date (yes I’m really flippin lucky) and I’ve always wondered what type of person it takes to create such a performance. I’d love to see their pre-show warm ups, how they wind down at the end of the night, and how they interact with each other.

4. attend a Rugby World Cup Final – Preferrably in Millenium stadium in Wales. I’ve been to a few rugby games and get drunk with the energy of the place (maybe the beer helps a bit too). My dad and friends tell me that the World Cup final is completely overwhelming and wonderful. I just want to do it.

5. visit every continent – this started as every country but that’s just FAR too many that I don’t care to visit. The continents that I have not been to are Antarctica and Africa but there are still lots of places in the other 5 that I’d love to explore.

6. make out under a waterfall – Not a fake, man-made waterfall. A real one. In a tropical place somewhere (Hawaii?). And not technically under it but BEHIND it. I don’t want to drown in water.

7. get in a fist fight – It takes a lot to get me angry but once I’m there, I’m a pretty little ball of rage. One day I would like someone to make me mad enough that I can pound on them a few times. Again, I WOULD win.

There are a few more but 7 is a good number so I’ll stop there. Also, upon inspection, it’s really interesting how many of these are violent and competitive. Just don’t get me mad people!

What’s something on your bucket list?

Fun Times Friday: Date Night Creativity

If you’ve been following this blog for a bit, you know that Mike and I go on a date every Saturday night. Each week we switch off planning and paying for them and, if possible, we make it a surprise. So last week was mine and, considering I’m on a VERY tight budget I’ve had to get pretty creative with what we do. My budget most weeks is about $25 for both of us. How the heck do I figure that out??

Well if you keep an eye out for free events going on in your town, you never know what you’ll find! There’s a nice, upper class area called Peoria Heights that I drive through every once in a while and I saw a sign for “Chocolate in the Heights.” You know those signs that you tend to ignore because you’re just too busy going about your day? This was one of those. But since I’ve come to realize my not awesome financial state, I’ve started actually looking at those signs! There was no description of what it was, just that it was the next Saturday (yes!) from 10am-5pm. I did a little searching and found a slightly more detailed poster for the event.

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Using my deductive reasoning, I assumed that each boutique and shop on the main street would have some kind of deal on chocolate and/or something free to offer. Done and done!

As usual, I planned to take him to this event and then bring him home and cook a nice, sit-down meal for us both.

I kept it a surprise until we parked in the Heights and let’s just say Mike looked less than excited. However! I kept the energy going. I gave us $15 to spend on chocolate and whatever else we wanted and, because I had to work late, we had an hour to do it.

It ended up being REALLY fun. Of course we only took one picture because I was too excited to remember to take more. But we discovered a whole street of awesome shops we didn’t know were there: an oil and vinegar shop with about 30 different types of gourmet vinegar (cool!) and a few more specialty shops with random but also really unusual knick-knacks. We got some great gift ideas for Christmas.

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^ Yep, I look like I’ve just discovered gold.

We used this as our food vacation day and got lots of delectable treats. Free stuff we indulged in: chocolate fountain (see above), chocolate pretzel clusters, oil and vinegar samples, cheese, wine, beer, and chocolate cupcakes. With our $15 we bought an amazing triangle of cheese, a bar of specialty chocolate, and some Pear Balsamic Vinegar. And we had such a good time scoping out the options and then going back to the shops to purchase what we wanted.

So it’s possible! To have a few hours of fun and still stick to your budget. You just have to keep an eye out for free things around your town.

Happy Friday everyone! 🙂

Happy 100!!

This blog is officially 100 posts old!! I can and can’t believe that I’ve been posting for so long. I still have so much to say! So today, instead of posting a recipe, it’s going to be a thankful Tuesday.

Today and everyday I am thankful for:

1. This forum. WordPress has allowed me (for free!) to be able to write out all the kooky things I have to say and project them to the world! I have stepped off my soapbox in everyday life and restrain myself to giving advice at work and on this here blog. It’s been and will continue to be such a great outlet for me.

2. All you guys. All my loved ones and the strangers that have supported me through the last several months. It’s incredible how people step up to give feedback when they could just read without my ever knowing. Thanks guys!

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^ Mike and I this past weekend at the top of Sears (Willis) Tower. That skybox is sort of like my blogging (and real) life. Completely terrifying but well worth the adventure.

3. My physical and mental ability to speak, type, and think through these things. There have been many people in my life not quite as fortunate as I am. My mind is healthy enough to provide (mostly) rational thought, my body strong enough to get up every day to cook healthy meals and workout until I throw up (yesterday, EW), and my fingers nimble enough to type these words.

I am SO lucky! Thanks again everyone for following. Stay tuned because there will actually be a recipe post on Thursday.

 

Monday Confession: Quarter Life Crisis

A friend of mine recently commented on this post (Anxiety to Depression and Back to Life) and I realized how important it is for me to continue writing about my imperfections and how I’m working to overcome them. The purpose of this blog is to educate and inspire but it’s also to help people realize that no one person has it all right. A great person knows that and works with it. So here it goes:

Confession: I think I’m having a Quarter Life Crisis. I work very hard at work, at my primary job and my secondary job. I take care of our apartment and do everything I can to keep Mike and I healthy. I feel pretty well stimulated considering the place I find myself in. But sometimes I get really really sad. I miss my friends. I miss having friends. Where did the days go when we could call each other and meet fifteen minutes later to have a coffee or a quick drink? College held amazing opportunities to be around people but I had so little time to take advantage of it. Now that I have the time, I don’t have the people. I’ve been working at this for months, trying to put myself out there and make friends. There have been small victories every once in a while but 5 months into our stay in Peoria, I still find myself very much friendless.

Misconceptions: I heard so many times while I was in school how awful it was to be graduated. I completely disagree. Thank goodness school is over. It was 6 years of way too much work, an emotional roller coaster. I do not miss it for a second. I now have freedom to do what I want when I want (pretty much) and I have the good fortune of finally spending my own money (instead of the bank’s)! The only crappy thing about being done with school is how my social life is suddenly and completely gone. Would it be different in another city? What about if I’d just gone traveling instead of settling in the US? I’ll never know. What I do know is that this happens to lots and lots of people every year. How do they merge into the adult world? It’s really fricken hard I think.

My Case:  I know I know. I’m being dramatic. Of course I have friends! They just don’t happen to live anywhere close to me. But that’s not enough. My close friends know how much they mean to me. We do everything we can to keep in touch and make sure we continue supporting each other, but I need someone to grab a quick drink or a coffee with.

Solution: I don’t know what the solution is. Obviously what I’m doing now isn’t working so I’m going to have to change my approach. This is going to be a learning experience for me. It may take much longer for me to figure this out but I will. Just like all those years and people before me, I’ll make friends. They may not be quite as awesome or close as the friends I have scattered all over the world, but they at least they’ll get a drink with me!

Anyway, that’s my confession. That is one of the many things I’m struggling with right now. I think that recognizing problems and making steps to solve them is a continuous, life-long process. And the fact that these are the type of issues I’m dealing with in my life makes me a VERY lucky lady.

ps. Thank goodness for all the love in my life. I may not have friends here in Peoria but man there’s a lot of love floating around for me outside this town.

Happy Monday everyone! Keep on keepin’ on 🙂

Fun Times Friday: Pottery Painting

As I mentioned in this post. Last week was my turn to organize our date and I took Mike pottery painting. Hahaha. I kept it a surprise because I knew he wouldn’t look forward to it, in fact I was sure he would dread it. So we drove up to the place (Fired Up in Peoria, IL) and I told him what we were doing. I asked if he was excited and, being the wonderful man he is, he answered, “Yeah.” No smile, no kiss, no jumping up and down in his seat. He was dreading it. I told him to keep an open mind and that I would still love him if we walked out and he still hated it. Just in case, I had steak marinating in the fridge to perk up his spirits.

Spoiler alert: he LOVED it. The painting part was really fun. He messed up on his beer mug a few times (thank goodness for the owner because she fixed it for him) but finally got the hang of it. I painted a bowl to use as our centerpiece on the dining table (practical as ever). But when we left, he still didn’t love it. HOWEVER, when we went back to pick up our goods a week later, he realized how awesome it was that we had actually painted a useable piece of pottery. Victory!

I will say that because we picked such practical (see: expensive) pieces, it ended up being a very costly date. But it was worth it because now we have something around the house to remember it!

Of course, I forgot to take photos while we were actually in the studio so see below for the three-picture montage. I love my man 🙂

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^ He didn’t want to take a picture. It may have been the manly side of him. The same side that resisted the pottery painting.

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^ Yep, that would be an swirly bowl and a dinosaur mug.

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^ Finally a smile! He’s so handsome 🙂

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^ And my bowl in place on our dining table.

Have you ever done something like this? What would/did you paint?

Happy Friday!!!! 🙂

 

Fabulous Friday: Don’t Stop ‘Till You Get Enough

It’s the day after Thanksgiving. Why and when do we stop being thankful? No doubt we will arrive at this day next year feeling like we  take all the goodness in our lives for granted. How do you prevent that from happening? You learn to appreciate all the people in you lives! The cool thing is, if you say enough nice things, you’ll eventually start hearing nice things back! It’s like an endless circle of happy.

I know I sound like one of those annoyingly joyous people who walks around smiling strangers and complimenting their sweaters. Well I admit that I sort of am. But I wasn’t always like this and I can testify that it feels a little odd at first. But it turns out that when you live like this, and you’re having a rough day, someone will return a compliment and make your hour! The return on investment is awesome!

On that note, I’m going to publish the comments I’ve been getting from readers to their loved ones. Thanks to everyone that commented. It’s been wonderful to hear all the positivity. And don’t forget to pass them the link to this blog OR just tell them in real life.  I will definitely be doing this again sometime soon so, if you didn’t you should participate next time?

Format:

Who it’s dedicated to – The compliment. – The sender

Jordan C. – I love your intellectual curiosity! The way you like to take puzzles apart, piece by piece, until they make sense has made our house a more fun place to be! – Ben

Nikki M. – She is smart, funny, beautiful and my best friend in the world. – Katy H.

Ryan D. – You are understanding and (mostly ;) patient when I can be a handful. Your smile brightens the room and make others feel welcome. I love how you are so goofy & not care what others think when trying to make me smile. – Alana T.

Ashley H. (that’s me!) – You are a brave young woman who inspires me with every blog. -Sue G.

Susan S. –  A mom, a mentor, and a perpetual chaser of her dreams. To see the determination to try new things and always follow your dreams until you attain them, no matter how long it takes, is a life lesson one can only learn from witnessing. So, thanks for keepin’ on Mom. – Maggie S.

You Every time you take the time out of your day to read A Happy Lass, you increase my confidence and love for blogging. Thank you! – Ashley H.

 

Happy Snowboard, Turkey, Stuffing, and Football Day!

Happy Day Ya’ll! I have the good fortune of being a guest at Mike’s family’s place in Sugarloaf, Maine; and some awesome bosses that gave me a few days off. This morning we all went skiing/snowboarding. I somehow managed to fall while getting off the lift and did a number on my wrist so I am now typing with one hand! Haha. It’s making me super thankful that I have both my arms! So today, you just get one awesome photo.

I’m the one in the red jacket and blue pants. At this point I was asking photographer to count to three so I could open my eyes. Haha!

Have a wonderful day everyone! 🙂